Is it true that men eventually grow tired of their wives after a few years of their marriage?

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Mar 13, 2018 2:38 AM

Shakti Amarantha

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187w ago

It's fairly common, although it seems to affect more women than men, at least in the U.S.  Here's a breakdown of what happens to newly married couples, using approximate numbers:

•  Almost 50% get divorced (higher for younger, poorer, and previously divorced)

 •  More than 30% lose the passion but stay together as friends, companions, co-parents, housemates, and financial partners.

 •  About 20% figure out how to get from romance to long-term love and passion and have storybook marriages.

You can look at that as being hopeful if you didn't realize the third group even existed, or terribly depressing if you see it as 4:1 odds against success.

That's from a longer answer where I address your question of what can be done to prevent it: 

Brian Fox

CTO, Husband, Proud Father, Polymath, Martial Artist

187w ago

Hmmm...  Married since 1987, wife is still as beautiful, intelligent, sexy and intriguing as ever (if not more)...  No, I'm not tired of her.

On a serious note, your question is stereotypical, highly subjective and biased against men since the dissolution or tedium of a marriage based upon growing bored by one's partner could be a feeling experienced or expressed by either gender.  In my experience, I've encountered men and women who have expressed this feeling, and typically it's due to selfishness on the part of the person expressing it and/or an unwillingness in both partners to do the necessary "work" to keep their relationship fulfilling.

By work, I'm stating that there is an evolution in marriage based upon the couple changing due to aging, experiences, increased knowledge, adversity and other factors, and both partners have to be committed to grow, endure obstacles and overcome them as a team which grows closer together instead of these issues forming a wedge in their relationship.  In addition to this, both partners should be committed to support the desires of the other, whether it is in terms of educational or professional goals, hobbies, travel or other interests to ensure that the relationship doesn't grow stagnant.  I can guarantee you that the men complaining about their wives have failed to fulfill this aspect of their marriages and are probably taking their wives for granted and in a sense, stifling the "creative juices and energy" which would provide the "spark" to keep their wives interesting to them.

Farah Naaz

Quorian. I love psychology. I talk about Life, Relationships, Dating and Love. My answers are more inclined...

187w ago

Thanks for A2A.

But, I am not eligible to answer this questions for obvious reasons. However I can put my opinion.

You cannot apply economics, Law of Diminishing Returns to marriage especially to men. 
Its unfair to men if you say that they get tired after few years of marriage. It can happen to both men and women. Its both wife and husbands responsibility to keep relationship alive and interesting after marriage. Once wife and husband are truly in love they are going to stay forever through thick and thin.

Michael Cohn

Ph.D., Clinical Neuropsychologist, but forget all that, since you all know more than I do.

187w ago

I don't think this is, by any measure, a common or even a gender-related event.  Women tire of their partners too sometimes.

It may happen in marriages between very young or immature people, but I think in that case both women and men are equally prone to such problems.  Getting married too quickly before you know the person well enough may also put people at risk for this sort of thing.

Men and women should both consider their situation very carefully before taking a serious step like marriage...it never hurts to wait a bit.

Erik Johansson

187w ago

Even if that's true, it's true of women twice as often. Women are 2x more likely to initiate divorce as men.

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